Essential oils are wonderful things. Their ability to affect our emotions, enhance communication, or bolster our courage are just some of the reasons I love them. One of the best books I have ever read for improving relationships is the book The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. In this blog we will look at these five love languages and then address some of the underlying emotions that might make speaking them to our loved ones difficult for us. This time of year often focuses on romantic relationships. These love languages and accompanying oils can be of great benefit in all our relationships. They have been invaluable to me with my children. You can learn more about these languages here.
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals. However, communication doesn’t always come easy. Sometimes it can be scary to open ourselves up enough to let another person see the things we appreciate about them. Take a look at some recommended oils that may help you become better at words of affirmation.
COMMUNICATION: LeCherish, LeConnection, LeGrateful Heart, LeReconciliation, LeTrust, LeUnity, Chamomile German, Geranium, Grapefruit, Lavender, Lemon, Peppermint
GENEROSITY: LeBelieve, LeBountiful, LeReconciliation, LeTrust, Benzoin, Cinnamon, Geranium, Grapefruit, Lavender, Melissa, Nutmeg, Sandalwood
Spending quality time with our loved ones is a great way to show them that we love them. It is important to be able to focus and concentrate on them when we are with them. This can often require some tolerance as well. When you focus on and spend time together the natural next step is communication so be sure and read the section of this blog on words of affirmation.
CONCENTRATION: LeCrystal Clear,
LeFocus,
LeIQ,
LeWakeUp,
Cedarwood,
Eucalyptus, Lemon,
Peppermint,
Rosemary,
Thyme,
Violet Leaf.
TOLERANCE: LeBelieve,
LeGrace LeGrateful Heart,
LeLetting Go,
LeReconciliation,
LeTrust,
Clary Sage,
Frankincense,
Lavender,
Marjoram,
Peppermint,
Thyme
Everyone likes to receive gifts because it makes us feel important and loved. To some, however, they are extremely important and the primary way they feel loved. There can be several things that make giving gifts difficult. Sometimes we don’t give gifts because of our attitude about money. Sometimes we just don’t have any ideas and need some inspiration.
Acts of service require generosity of spirit which can be hard to feel if we feel resentment at the same time. It can be easy to feel like those acts are being demanded of us. Essential oils are great for helping to foster a generosity of spirit.
GENEROSITY: LeBelieve,
LeBountiful,
LeReconciliation,
LeTrust,
Benzoin,
Cinnamon,
Geranium,
Grapefruit,
Lavender,
Melissa,
Nutmeg,
Sandalwood
This section is going to be a bit longer because, depending on the person or couple’s past, many different emotional categories could help improve physical touch. This is in no way meant to be a complete guide.
If physical touch is hard for one or both people in the relationship you may want to look into the following categories as well. As mentioned above, this is not a complete guide, and depending on the situation, many other emotional categories may also be of benefit.
ACCEPTANCE (OF LOVE): LeAgeless,
LeAngel,
LeBelieve,
LeBeloved,
LeFaith,
LeGrace,
LeTrust,
Chamomile Roman,
Melissa,
Pine,
Rose
You may have noticed that several of these oils come up in multiple categories. The ones mentioned more than once are, obviously, the great relationship oils. Please consider the people in your life as you read about these.
This oil should be used whenever there is a need to forgive and release emotions from the past that are holding one back. This oil aids in learning to love oneself and achieve a sense of inner peace. Such changes bring us more confidence in ourselves. This blend can help a person approaching death accept death as the next phase of life, moving peacefully and calmly toward death. LeBelieve can also be of benefit to those left behind in finding comfort and relief from loneliness.
This oil helps develop inner strength and fortitude. The aroma of
LeBeloved is like a breath of fresh air for our hearts and souls. When we feel out of sync with our loved ones or overwhelmed by our responsibilities to them, this oil helps bring us back to the joy of what is most important in our lives.
LeBeloved has been of value with mood swings and panic attacks.
This oil is of equal value to both men and women as it helps us develop and emphasize inner courage, strength of character, and clarity of purpose, while at the same time, filling our souls with greater reserves of sensitivity and compassion. The aroma of this blend encourages us to set our feet on a path that will help us reach a higher plateau.
A very special aspect of LeCherish is utilized as this high-frequency blend helps us rebuild our emotional balance and gain perspective in the aftermath of quarrels, traumatic events, the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a cherished hope or dream. This intense blend requires the use of only a drop or two at a time.
This blend relaxes tension and stressful emotions and creates tender feelings of empathy, gratitude, tolerance, and compassion. This blend promotes feelings of gratitude for all that we have and all that others do for us. It has a marked effect on the dark clouds of depression. It can be used to relax the mind and body. Dissatisfaction and discontentment are destructive to the nervous and immune systems. LeGrateful Heart addresses these imbalances and can provide support and healing for these feelings.
This oil aids us in “letting go” of negative emotions that we are holding onto in the physical tissues of our bodies. Use LeLetting Go to aid in the release of anger, frustration, resentment, despair, grief, insecurity, or any other emotion that is not serving you well. This oil is beneficial when used for the rebellious spirit sometimes seen in teens and others of us from time to time. Regular use of this essential oil blend can help us develop feelings of trust, safety, and security.
This blend helps us find perspective and peace by bringing us understanding and compassion. This empathy is like a warm blanket, covering ourselves and others, allowing us to stay connected even when distance separates us.
LeReconciliation can fill the deep well of loneliness we sometimes feel when our lives are being lived at a distance, physically or emotionally, from the home and heritage of our formative years.
This blend helps us be more accepting, tolerant, compassionate, and forgiving of ourselves and others. The emotions supported by
LeTrust can help us evaluate our relationships and leave behind attitudes of co-dependency. Finding a balance between trusting others and ourselves, and reasonable caution of new situations and old relationships is a very important life skill. Useful for the relief of the pain associated with pleurisy and gallstones.
